A Romantic relationship involves two people who stake an interest with each other to be together for an extended period of time (with the eventual goal of the rest of their lives, though this isn’t always the case). They are partners in life during that relationship and in order for a relationship to work each person must bring their half, their full 50% in order to get a complete 100%. The problem with any struggling relationship or one that went bad can be identified when one or both didn’t give a satisfactory percentage to the other resulting in discrepancies (arguments, disagreements, and overall unhappiness).
Before I go any further lets take a quick run through at finding the right partner to even try a relationship. I hope everyone realizes that looks are not everything, and neither are the things that go with it. I know many people who only go after certain “type” or “look” and wonder why they don’t have much success. Also be sure that you are on the same page as far as goals and expectation page being on the wrong page leads to many relationship failures. And finally before we get into this a disclaimer, everyone must realize that in searching for their significant other you are at risk to run into the immature, trifling, damaged, or downright ignorant possibilities that exist for both males and females.
A big problem I find with many relationships is people who are not complete themselves trying to be in a relationship. No matter the reason, be it some form of mental, physical, or emotional abuse in their past, or a series of bad experiences with relationships, one cannot shortchange the possibility of future relationship success by carrying bad luggage. Even worse is hanging the mistakes and faults of past partners gone wrong over this person you are trying to be in a relationship with. You cannot make person C pay for the mistakes of the previous A and B. If you find yourself still struggling with issues from a previous relationship then take the time to avoid them (and subsequently dealing with anyone) until you take the time to heal properly. There is nothing worse than allowing your own emotional issues ruin another relationship (and possibly create bad experiences for someone else). Also one should ask themselves am I mature enough for a relationship or would I rather be “open” to running around and “experiencing” other people as I grow (make sure you figure this out and don’t hurt anyone while trying to find you own way).
The other issue is that people don’t know how to give their all properly. They either give too much (trying to cover for the other’s deficiencies) or they give too little (creating said deficiency). Nobody can give more than 100% despite what many motivating clichés may say. Trying to go beyond your own 100% for any reason, be it compensating for your partners lack of anything from esteem, respect, priority, or even love and care can cause damage to yourself and the overall relationship. Doing so puts a strain on yourself and does not help your partner grow or get better at what they are lacking. Instead make sure proper communication about your wants and needs (and your partners too) are communicated, and do your best to find out what you guys need to work on in order to meet them for one another.
Finally realize that all relationships either last till death, or unfortunately end badly (with the rarity of a “good” ending). Someone once asked me “what’s wrong with me? Why do my relationships keep coming to a heartbreaking end?” First one must realize that a relationship is an emotional and spiritual investment, so if it doesn’t work then there WILL be pain and questions left behind. Just because there is a failure doesn’t mean there is necessarily anything “wrong” with you. As with any situation one should always look realistically in the mirror to identify what they did wrong and could do better, and everything isn’t automatically the other persons fault. Sometimes two people who are nice and good just are not the right match for one another, also just because it didn’t work doesn’t mean there is no hope. Fearing failure is one of the worst attitudes you can have in life, and can prevent its full potential.
In the end communication can never be stressed enough when it comes to relationships, especially early on in them. By figuring out your goals and expectations you can avoid many headaches before they start to become painful. When early on don’t try to portray yourself as the “perfect” partner, being upfront here will make a better relationship and save you future troubles. After you guys are on the same page make sure each person is a complete individual, capable of being on their own, not needy of each other, but wanting. Finally cast aside all preconceptions, mistrusts and doubts and judge each person on their own character and what they display to you. Never forget your past lessons, but learn to properly apply them, so that you can find what you’re looking for. Remember to never give up hope, and never let a demon of the past capture your potential for future victory; by holding on to those bad experiences, you give the person responsible for them power over you. Let go, live, and learn.
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Monday, January 4, 2010
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
The New Millenium Man?
I’m not even sure where to begin on this one; I think to myself how has the idea and concept of being a “man” gone so wrong? Men are supposed to be the backbone of the family, the support, the breadwinner, the first example to baby boys of how to be strong and loving, and the first example to baby girls of what a real man looks like, and what a husband should be. I think it’s when the “man” decided to decline into the anti-family, responsibility skirting, proud to do wrong, overall poor excuse that he has become today. I can only address those 3 issues (there are more but I believe these are the worst offenders) at a time, so let’s begin:
The “anti-family” man is now the norm, what a shift from the good old days of the proud family man. Society and culture has shifted from a young man running around and finally settling down to raise a family, to blowing clean into full even middle aged and beyond adulthood with no regard or care to family. Isn’t there an age limit on being a bachelor? I guess 30 is the new 20 because the lack of maturity in 30+ year old men still dressing like they did when they actually were 20 is ridiculous. Sure not everyone is or should be married, some guys just aren’t the type that could or need to get married cause it would only lead to calamity. However some people never grow up, and clubbing it up well into your mid 30s is nothing to be proud of (this goes for women as well).
Skirting responsibility? No not real men? Right? Another sad but true statement. A great turning point in the decline of American society is the age where men got women pregnant and didn’t step up to the plate. Whether it was your main squeeze or women on the side, your child is your child. There was a once upon a time when men and women got married if the women was pregnant or at least got together in an effort to TRY to make it work. Now instead men just keep it moving and never look back, they carry on with their lives or with their main squeeze (after getting women on the side pregnant) like nothing ever happened. This has create a generation where having a single parent is way too common, and now that generation is trying to raise children of their own while hitting the same pitfalls that their parents hit for lack of guidance and example. Then there are guys who figure if they send some money, pay child support, and give a call or visit from time to time they can say they took care of responsibility and are worthy to be called fathers. Responsibilities are not just financial, they are emotional and spiritually to your children to do right by the women they call mom, and by them to show them a good example and give guidance.
The standard of what is now easily accepted as man hood has fallen so low that we are now proud to do wrong, and we don’t hold ourselves or those around us accountable for their misdoings? We applaud a man who goes and uses and abuses women, even gets them pregnant and keeps it stepping, and if we aren’t applauding with praises of “pimp” and “player” we are condoning by not speaking up at all like it’s all good. Even when we do call a guy a “man-whore” or “ho” it’s still not negative, we still act like its ok. How can one man call another trustworthy or reliable when they lie regularly and skip their responsibilities to everyone but their “boys”. If we had the fortitude to hold each other accountable, and challenged and treated wrong for what it is, then maybe we wouldn’t live in a world where such behavior is acceptable.
In conclusion is I say it once I will say it a thousand times, nobody is perfect and we all do wrong and make mistakes, but real men (and yes real women) own up to them and make them right. I will be the harshest with the men, because we are supposed to be just that, men. Even in light of the recent tragedy of Steve McNair, who was an outstanding NFL QB, and humanitarian, who was murdered by the women he was cheating on his family with. No matter how good we would like him to of been, he died because he was doing wrong, and he didn’t get a chance to make it right, he lost his life and in the process failed his wife AND children. When a man cheats on his wife with kids, he cheats on the children as well. It’s hard to explain the love and care you have for a person when you disrespectfully do their mother wrong. And for the record let it be known if you are in a relationship, break it up before cheating, be a real man and tell her you’re not happy and end it right before you end it wrong and cowardly. For all those who may read this, and you know you are guilty of the above or worse, then it is never too late to turn it around and make things right. Don’t be content to just let it be, or discouraged by the right rage and hardship that owning up may bring, because as we saw not everyone gets a chance to fix things. Life is short, so live it, that doesn’t mean go buck wild, it means live to the fullest with respect to it, to yourself, all those whom you will encounter and affect, and the potential children you will leave behind.
The “anti-family” man is now the norm, what a shift from the good old days of the proud family man. Society and culture has shifted from a young man running around and finally settling down to raise a family, to blowing clean into full even middle aged and beyond adulthood with no regard or care to family. Isn’t there an age limit on being a bachelor? I guess 30 is the new 20 because the lack of maturity in 30+ year old men still dressing like they did when they actually were 20 is ridiculous. Sure not everyone is or should be married, some guys just aren’t the type that could or need to get married cause it would only lead to calamity. However some people never grow up, and clubbing it up well into your mid 30s is nothing to be proud of (this goes for women as well).
Skirting responsibility? No not real men? Right? Another sad but true statement. A great turning point in the decline of American society is the age where men got women pregnant and didn’t step up to the plate. Whether it was your main squeeze or women on the side, your child is your child. There was a once upon a time when men and women got married if the women was pregnant or at least got together in an effort to TRY to make it work. Now instead men just keep it moving and never look back, they carry on with their lives or with their main squeeze (after getting women on the side pregnant) like nothing ever happened. This has create a generation where having a single parent is way too common, and now that generation is trying to raise children of their own while hitting the same pitfalls that their parents hit for lack of guidance and example. Then there are guys who figure if they send some money, pay child support, and give a call or visit from time to time they can say they took care of responsibility and are worthy to be called fathers. Responsibilities are not just financial, they are emotional and spiritually to your children to do right by the women they call mom, and by them to show them a good example and give guidance.
The standard of what is now easily accepted as man hood has fallen so low that we are now proud to do wrong, and we don’t hold ourselves or those around us accountable for their misdoings? We applaud a man who goes and uses and abuses women, even gets them pregnant and keeps it stepping, and if we aren’t applauding with praises of “pimp” and “player” we are condoning by not speaking up at all like it’s all good. Even when we do call a guy a “man-whore” or “ho” it’s still not negative, we still act like its ok. How can one man call another trustworthy or reliable when they lie regularly and skip their responsibilities to everyone but their “boys”. If we had the fortitude to hold each other accountable, and challenged and treated wrong for what it is, then maybe we wouldn’t live in a world where such behavior is acceptable.
In conclusion is I say it once I will say it a thousand times, nobody is perfect and we all do wrong and make mistakes, but real men (and yes real women) own up to them and make them right. I will be the harshest with the men, because we are supposed to be just that, men. Even in light of the recent tragedy of Steve McNair, who was an outstanding NFL QB, and humanitarian, who was murdered by the women he was cheating on his family with. No matter how good we would like him to of been, he died because he was doing wrong, and he didn’t get a chance to make it right, he lost his life and in the process failed his wife AND children. When a man cheats on his wife with kids, he cheats on the children as well. It’s hard to explain the love and care you have for a person when you disrespectfully do their mother wrong. And for the record let it be known if you are in a relationship, break it up before cheating, be a real man and tell her you’re not happy and end it right before you end it wrong and cowardly. For all those who may read this, and you know you are guilty of the above or worse, then it is never too late to turn it around and make things right. Don’t be content to just let it be, or discouraged by the right rage and hardship that owning up may bring, because as we saw not everyone gets a chance to fix things. Life is short, so live it, that doesn’t mean go buck wild, it means live to the fullest with respect to it, to yourself, all those whom you will encounter and affect, and the potential children you will leave behind.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
The Chance
Oh so close, yet no cigar
So out of reach yet not so far
The closer I get, the further you are
There’s the reason for my hearts biggest scar
Anything could happen if we gave it a chance
Together each other’s lives we would enhance
The ability to send you a chill with just a glance
A life time of love and romance
If I said how I feel where would it go?
Would it even matter if you decided to know?
Together one day, possibly we could grow?
Or would I end up with nothing to show?
If only I knew the answer first
The time and effort, would it be worth?
The slim chance of a beautiful birth
A masterpiece to exist on this earth
So out of reach yet not so far
The closer I get, the further you are
There’s the reason for my hearts biggest scar
Anything could happen if we gave it a chance
Together each other’s lives we would enhance
The ability to send you a chill with just a glance
A life time of love and romance
If I said how I feel where would it go?
Would it even matter if you decided to know?
Together one day, possibly we could grow?
Or would I end up with nothing to show?
If only I knew the answer first
The time and effort, would it be worth?
The slim chance of a beautiful birth
A masterpiece to exist on this earth
Friday, June 5, 2009
Dangerous Kiss
Yours pressed against mine,
Frozen in a moment of time
Always a memory of bliss
Still thinking of that dangerous kiss
Softer than rose pedals
Worthy of award medals
Nothing sweeter exists
Than the beauty of a dangerous kiss
So much trouble it can bring
Like a once in a lifetime fling
Never knowing something was amiss
Because we got started with a dangerous kiss
I would do it over and over again
Knowing what means would justify the ends
Now I wait, and always will I miss
The source of that dangerous Kiss
This is dedicated to all those lovely moments that are often overlooked.
Frozen in a moment of time
Always a memory of bliss
Still thinking of that dangerous kiss
Softer than rose pedals
Worthy of award medals
Nothing sweeter exists
Than the beauty of a dangerous kiss
So much trouble it can bring
Like a once in a lifetime fling
Never knowing something was amiss
Because we got started with a dangerous kiss
I would do it over and over again
Knowing what means would justify the ends
Now I wait, and always will I miss
The source of that dangerous Kiss
This is dedicated to all those lovely moments that are often overlooked.
Friday, May 29, 2009
Women Are Queens?
First of all, I believe all women are queens at heart. They are beautiful in every way that makes them unique, they were designed by God personally out of a piece of our side to be our companion, equal, and partner. Inside every woman is what it takes to be a true queen, however it is each women’s throne to take or abdicate.
Every woman makes choices that will push them toward their throne to become a true queen, or drive them away as they make themselves unworthy. Women, you control so much more than many give themselves credit for. You control the people you deal with, associate with and talk to in every way. Far too often I see women drag themselves down by the friends they keep (both male and female), the guys they talk to and deal with. No offense to anyone out there (we all encounter people who we should of never met) but it is hard to be a queen when you deal with scum. This problem gets compounded when the list of people you have dealt with grows at an alarming rate (if you know what I mean). I may be beating a dead horse but if you wish to be a queen choose those who you feel are real kings in all facets of their lives.
Lastly aside from the people you deal with, the most important factor is in how you carry yourselves. One cannot become the queen they are meant to be if you don’t act like it and believe in it yourself. No matter what you have been through, think you look like (I know far too many beautiful women who have issues with their bodies), or have done (everyone makes mistakes), it is never too late to wake up and realize that you are a queen. You cannot do or accomplish anything unless you believe in it and work towards it. Realize how precious your mind, body and spirits are. Stop allowing any of those three to be compromised by anyone or anything not worthy of your royal selves. If you allow it then it is what you are, half of the problem with women realizing their crowns is the lack of true kings out there. However part of that flaw is due to the lowered standards given up by women. All women are beautiful queens, gifts from god, but sadly far too many abdicate their thrones.
Every woman makes choices that will push them toward their throne to become a true queen, or drive them away as they make themselves unworthy. Women, you control so much more than many give themselves credit for. You control the people you deal with, associate with and talk to in every way. Far too often I see women drag themselves down by the friends they keep (both male and female), the guys they talk to and deal with. No offense to anyone out there (we all encounter people who we should of never met) but it is hard to be a queen when you deal with scum. This problem gets compounded when the list of people you have dealt with grows at an alarming rate (if you know what I mean). I may be beating a dead horse but if you wish to be a queen choose those who you feel are real kings in all facets of their lives.
Lastly aside from the people you deal with, the most important factor is in how you carry yourselves. One cannot become the queen they are meant to be if you don’t act like it and believe in it yourself. No matter what you have been through, think you look like (I know far too many beautiful women who have issues with their bodies), or have done (everyone makes mistakes), it is never too late to wake up and realize that you are a queen. You cannot do or accomplish anything unless you believe in it and work towards it. Realize how precious your mind, body and spirits are. Stop allowing any of those three to be compromised by anyone or anything not worthy of your royal selves. If you allow it then it is what you are, half of the problem with women realizing their crowns is the lack of true kings out there. However part of that flaw is due to the lowered standards given up by women. All women are beautiful queens, gifts from god, but sadly far too many abdicate their thrones.
Friday, May 15, 2009
Take Your Time
Far too often the young ladies of the world out there do foolish things all in pursuit of finding the right one. Guys do this as well, just because it is a great thing to be in a relationship, we cannot rush to find such a thing. Anything good in life, be it wine or cheese, or what ever floats your boat, they all take TIME. It is not advisable to go running around with your heart on your sleeve, that like playing the lotto with your rent money, the reward can be great, but it is a almost certainty of being homeless.
For all those guys and girls out there, here is something to think about. If you get in a serious relationship, make sure it is someone who you could see yourself married to. Why get serious especially in or after college with someone who you say to yourself you couldn’t marry? I have seen people do this and wonder why things go bad. Why set yourselves up for failure? If you meet a person that is cussin, fussin, partying, drinking, smoking, getting totally wasted, then be prepared for that. And be prepared for all the problems that will come out of it like getting drunk and doing stupid stuff, being around the wrong people, etc. I honestly think some people just don’t pay attention to what they are looking at or getting into, TAKE YOUR TIME, and really find out what people are about.
TAKE YOUR TIME (men and women alike), learn the background of the people you deal with before you get serious. I have said it before if someone is good and genuine it will reign true in all aspects of their life. If a person is good to you and bad by everyone else and through reputation that that means one of two things; On one hand they could be putting up a front and running game on you, or two they are good inside but are 50/50 cause their bad everywhere else. Some people are not looking for anything serious and therefore don’t care, but for those who are think about these things. If you go with the 50/50 or even the game runner be prepared for the results, and when the crap hits the fan don’t be one of the “men aint nothing” group. If you are willing to play with those odds, be prepared to lose…
For all those guys and girls out there, here is something to think about. If you get in a serious relationship, make sure it is someone who you could see yourself married to. Why get serious especially in or after college with someone who you say to yourself you couldn’t marry? I have seen people do this and wonder why things go bad. Why set yourselves up for failure? If you meet a person that is cussin, fussin, partying, drinking, smoking, getting totally wasted, then be prepared for that. And be prepared for all the problems that will come out of it like getting drunk and doing stupid stuff, being around the wrong people, etc. I honestly think some people just don’t pay attention to what they are looking at or getting into, TAKE YOUR TIME, and really find out what people are about.
TAKE YOUR TIME (men and women alike), learn the background of the people you deal with before you get serious. I have said it before if someone is good and genuine it will reign true in all aspects of their life. If a person is good to you and bad by everyone else and through reputation that that means one of two things; On one hand they could be putting up a front and running game on you, or two they are good inside but are 50/50 cause their bad everywhere else. Some people are not looking for anything serious and therefore don’t care, but for those who are think about these things. If you go with the 50/50 or even the game runner be prepared for the results, and when the crap hits the fan don’t be one of the “men aint nothing” group. If you are willing to play with those odds, be prepared to lose…
Solar Eclipse
I was always used to the dark, and the beautiful moonlight
It made my nights a beautiful sight
Till one day the moon decided not to come out that night
The day began and out came the sun with all its might
I would have never met her if the moon never hid her light
And now it was the sun that was all I wanted in sight
After I had grew for the sun’s lighted lips
The moon decided to create a solar eclipse
And forced the darkness back into my script
I had to endure the dark once again
Wondering if the sun would still be my friend
But light and dark will never blend
Now I left my moon in a way I can’t comprehend
But I was excited to see the sun once again
But it was too late, the sun decided to set around the worlds end
I wonder what it would have been like to enjoy the sun
Now my days are cloudy and I seem to of lost my grip
All because of a solar eclipse…
This one goes out to anybody who ever had to sacrifice someone for the other
It made my nights a beautiful sight
Till one day the moon decided not to come out that night
The day began and out came the sun with all its might
I would have never met her if the moon never hid her light
And now it was the sun that was all I wanted in sight
After I had grew for the sun’s lighted lips
The moon decided to create a solar eclipse
And forced the darkness back into my script
I had to endure the dark once again
Wondering if the sun would still be my friend
But light and dark will never blend
Now I left my moon in a way I can’t comprehend
But I was excited to see the sun once again
But it was too late, the sun decided to set around the worlds end
I wonder what it would have been like to enjoy the sun
Now my days are cloudy and I seem to of lost my grip
All because of a solar eclipse…
This one goes out to anybody who ever had to sacrifice someone for the other
Just Like A Star
Just like a star can fall out the sky
Just like you can lose that look in your eye
Just like my love waits in standby
In faith and God I will have to rely
Just like a star is how my love endures
Through the test of time our love tours
That’s why I know my love is mature
Because I know, what I feel is for sure
Just like a star burns with fire
Only for you my heart desires
If only you knew how your love inspired
If only my love never backfired…..
Just like a star shines oh so bright
When things get dark I won’t give up the fight
Even when there is no peace in sight
Together we can light up any night
Just like a star is beautiful and strong
Especially when love can do no wrong
Hopefully no matter what we will get along
And both of us can end up where we belong
Just like a star will never end
It’s possible I could risk a dear friend
Because some wounds never mend
Because two hearts are unable to blend
This was written for someone special at the time, who will always be special to me no matter what, and is clearly influenced by "Just Like A Star" by Corrine Baily Rae
Just like you can lose that look in your eye
Just like my love waits in standby
In faith and God I will have to rely
Just like a star is how my love endures
Through the test of time our love tours
That’s why I know my love is mature
Because I know, what I feel is for sure
Just like a star burns with fire
Only for you my heart desires
If only you knew how your love inspired
If only my love never backfired…..
Just like a star shines oh so bright
When things get dark I won’t give up the fight
Even when there is no peace in sight
Together we can light up any night
Just like a star is beautiful and strong
Especially when love can do no wrong
Hopefully no matter what we will get along
And both of us can end up where we belong
Just like a star will never end
It’s possible I could risk a dear friend
Because some wounds never mend
Because two hearts are unable to blend
This was written for someone special at the time, who will always be special to me no matter what, and is clearly influenced by "Just Like A Star" by Corrine Baily Rae
I Don't Need Your Love
I can prove I don’t need your love
Cause I have the blessing of the lord above
And when things look bad my family is there
And my friends have my back with room to spare
I know I don’t need your love
My strength is to powerful to measure
My despairs are over powered by my pleasure
Even thought I may have lost my greatest treasure
So what if I don’t need your love
Who really had the most to lose?
Who always had things misconstrued?
Even when it was your actions that had no excuse
Therefore I don’t need your love
Because the sun still shines on me
And a great young man the whole world can see
As long as what’s inside is hidden, then I can be
This one goes out to those have been heart broken, keep ya heads up
Cause I have the blessing of the lord above
And when things look bad my family is there
And my friends have my back with room to spare
I know I don’t need your love
My strength is to powerful to measure
My despairs are over powered by my pleasure
Even thought I may have lost my greatest treasure
So what if I don’t need your love
Who really had the most to lose?
Who always had things misconstrued?
Even when it was your actions that had no excuse
Therefore I don’t need your love
Because the sun still shines on me
And a great young man the whole world can see
As long as what’s inside is hidden, then I can be
This one goes out to those have been heart broken, keep ya heads up
100
A 100 days have made me older
since the last time I saw your pretty face
I think about how I took for granted
your love’s warm embrace
Without you, only bigger grows my hearts empty place
So close, to the love that no other can replace
A 100 turns of this planet can only bring us closer,
Right back where we belong
Cause together our future is secure
The test of time shows that our love is strong
As each day become our love’s tour
A 100 times I dreamed of you
If only you could know
But why has thing gone this way?
Wasn’t our love supposed to grow?
At last another chance in another day
Another opportunity for my love to show
This one goes out to those in a long distance relationship, and it was influced by the opening lines of "Here Without You" by 3 Doors Down.
since the last time I saw your pretty face
I think about how I took for granted
your love’s warm embrace
Without you, only bigger grows my hearts empty place
So close, to the love that no other can replace
A 100 turns of this planet can only bring us closer,
Right back where we belong
Cause together our future is secure
The test of time shows that our love is strong
As each day become our love’s tour
A 100 times I dreamed of you
If only you could know
But why has thing gone this way?
Wasn’t our love supposed to grow?
At last another chance in another day
Another opportunity for my love to show
This one goes out to those in a long distance relationship, and it was influced by the opening lines of "Here Without You" by 3 Doors Down.
Love Don't Live Here Anymore
I used to be able to write from the heart
Emotion and thought blended together like an ocean shore
To let it all flow in beautiful words like Art
Then my heart began to go cold, as it was once before
Back when I found out what love and caring is at the start
Now love doest live here anymore……..
Only one came along that actually concerned for me
I became a fool blinded by emotion, by love’s sweet allure
Very few cared for other than themselves, as far as I could see
Except for my true queen, my Cherie Amour
But I let my love for others ruin us; I should have let us be
Now love doesn’t live here anymore……………
Love is for those that share my blood, from my heart outpour
Love is for, and from, my lord and savior
Room left in my heart after them, I cannot tell for sure
Whether I’m right or wrong I’ll always hold their favor
But much beyond them, love doesn’t live here anymore………..
Now I struggle, my heart is so unsure
Why care, why not protect yourself, why not just take flight?
How can one tell their own heart to close its door?
How can one fight what they feel is right?
Does love live here anymore?
This one goes out to all those, in the struggle, looking for that special someone who sometimes feel like being fed up, keep ya'll heads up out there.
Emotion and thought blended together like an ocean shore
To let it all flow in beautiful words like Art
Then my heart began to go cold, as it was once before
Back when I found out what love and caring is at the start
Now love doest live here anymore……..
Only one came along that actually concerned for me
I became a fool blinded by emotion, by love’s sweet allure
Very few cared for other than themselves, as far as I could see
Except for my true queen, my Cherie Amour
But I let my love for others ruin us; I should have let us be
Now love doesn’t live here anymore……………
Love is for those that share my blood, from my heart outpour
Love is for, and from, my lord and savior
Room left in my heart after them, I cannot tell for sure
Whether I’m right or wrong I’ll always hold their favor
But much beyond them, love doesn’t live here anymore………..
Now I struggle, my heart is so unsure
Why care, why not protect yourself, why not just take flight?
How can one tell their own heart to close its door?
How can one fight what they feel is right?
Does love live here anymore?
This one goes out to all those, in the struggle, looking for that special someone who sometimes feel like being fed up, keep ya'll heads up out there.
Blind?
Why Is it that we cannot see what is right in front of us? Or see things for what we really are?
Can we really be that blind?
I have seen many men and women overlook wonderful people right in front or around them, bypassing them for sorry excuses of people, then shunning the opposing race as being worthless cause you made a poor choice.
Women overlook the good men right in front of them for miserable ass nigga’s who aren’t worth a damn, then get mad and say that men are worthless. Then they categorize all men as being sorry or about one thing. They try to give it another shot but they go after the same type of guy, only to get the same thing. They over look the “nice guys” for fake ass thugs or so called gangsters who turn out to be miserable excuses for boys, let alone so called “men”. To make things worse they probably overlooked, stepped on, or just pushed away a really good man who was right in front of them.
Men do the same things, they ignore the beautiful women right in front of them only to deal with some chick who they think looks better cause their features are bigger or cause they dress like a hoe, then get their hearts broken when they find out that they got involved with a miserable excuse for a girl, let alone a so called woman. All the while probably ignoring some really good women right in front of them.
It is worse when that good man or women become corrupted cause they been dealing with scum, and they in turn become scum their selves, the very thing that hurt them. When one allows themselves to go bad cause of the way they have been done wrong, therein you get a cycle of bad people corrupting good people. Also, it is horrible when one who has been dealing with scum, don’t even know what to do with a good person when they literally fall into their laps. They end up pushing them away, or hurting them all cause of their own past bad experiences.
I can speak form experience, as one who was lied to about everything from the very beginning, to being hurt, and then some. Yea it hurts, and you gonna have to take your time to get over it, but don’t let bad experiences ruin your future choices and decisions. And i know that i pretty sure myself that i have made the same mistakes of over looking and even ignoring, but its time to wake up. Don’t let someone else pay for the mistakes of others. I myself am just now overcoming this. Of course nobody is perfect, and you are going to make mistakes but just make sure you learn from them. Open your eyes, take a closer look at those around you, you never know where that good person for you is just standing there, just excuse them for not literally having a angel’s halo floating over their heads.
Just like anything in life, don't give up on what you want and what you are looking for, And for all those out there who are the overlooked and under appreciated great people, keep on pushing, it will pay off eventually, nice people don’t finish last forever…………..
Can we really be that blind?
I have seen many men and women overlook wonderful people right in front or around them, bypassing them for sorry excuses of people, then shunning the opposing race as being worthless cause you made a poor choice.
Women overlook the good men right in front of them for miserable ass nigga’s who aren’t worth a damn, then get mad and say that men are worthless. Then they categorize all men as being sorry or about one thing. They try to give it another shot but they go after the same type of guy, only to get the same thing. They over look the “nice guys” for fake ass thugs or so called gangsters who turn out to be miserable excuses for boys, let alone so called “men”. To make things worse they probably overlooked, stepped on, or just pushed away a really good man who was right in front of them.
Men do the same things, they ignore the beautiful women right in front of them only to deal with some chick who they think looks better cause their features are bigger or cause they dress like a hoe, then get their hearts broken when they find out that they got involved with a miserable excuse for a girl, let alone a so called woman. All the while probably ignoring some really good women right in front of them.
It is worse when that good man or women become corrupted cause they been dealing with scum, and they in turn become scum their selves, the very thing that hurt them. When one allows themselves to go bad cause of the way they have been done wrong, therein you get a cycle of bad people corrupting good people. Also, it is horrible when one who has been dealing with scum, don’t even know what to do with a good person when they literally fall into their laps. They end up pushing them away, or hurting them all cause of their own past bad experiences.
I can speak form experience, as one who was lied to about everything from the very beginning, to being hurt, and then some. Yea it hurts, and you gonna have to take your time to get over it, but don’t let bad experiences ruin your future choices and decisions. And i know that i pretty sure myself that i have made the same mistakes of over looking and even ignoring, but its time to wake up. Don’t let someone else pay for the mistakes of others. I myself am just now overcoming this. Of course nobody is perfect, and you are going to make mistakes but just make sure you learn from them. Open your eyes, take a closer look at those around you, you never know where that good person for you is just standing there, just excuse them for not literally having a angel’s halo floating over their heads.
Just like anything in life, don't give up on what you want and what you are looking for, And for all those out there who are the overlooked and under appreciated great people, keep on pushing, it will pay off eventually, nice people don’t finish last forever…………..
Ladies, I Need Your Help and Opinion
What is a man to do?
When he opens up and pours his heart out to a women, is faithful an true, and genuinely falls in love with her, when she tels him that he is special to her and is so different from other guys, and she loves him too.
He treats her as the queen of the world, writes beautiful writing and poetry all for her, never lies, and is totally honest and true to her, he does everything in his power that she asks of him (and the things that she don't have to ask for) to make her the happiest and most special woman in the world. He writes to her, hold her, hugs her, massages her, and loves her with every free moment of time he has.
However all along she was hiding secrets from him and lying, she hid the truth from him, that in the beginning she was toying with him just like every other guy before him, her stories were all lies her word and poems the same as those sent to the men before him, she was playing with him as a fool. But one day she realizes that he is real and she falls in love with him, but not after she still goes out and sees her ex's and even talks to other men on the internet. now she feels sorry and really loves him. but she is afraid of him finding out the truth so she sugar codes and lies about things so they seem better.
However he is too smart, he begins to see her lies and she even lies right to his face over and over again and each time he find the proof to the truth, and finally after over 2 months of lies (which he has stuck by her the entire time) she finally gives the real terrible truth about her past, with terrible acts and all of which cant even be mentioned here. NOW she loves him, NOW she wants to be true.
The man loves her with all his heart but his patience has run thin, does he deserve this? he doesnt want to leave her and hurt her, but he doesnt want to stay and continue to be hurt, he also does not wanna be left all alone in the end, what did he do to deserve this, what should a real man do? why do women (including her) complain that there are no real men, yet they are shocked to find one and they treat them like this? why do nice guys finish last?
When he opens up and pours his heart out to a women, is faithful an true, and genuinely falls in love with her, when she tels him that he is special to her and is so different from other guys, and she loves him too.
He treats her as the queen of the world, writes beautiful writing and poetry all for her, never lies, and is totally honest and true to her, he does everything in his power that she asks of him (and the things that she don't have to ask for) to make her the happiest and most special woman in the world. He writes to her, hold her, hugs her, massages her, and loves her with every free moment of time he has.
However all along she was hiding secrets from him and lying, she hid the truth from him, that in the beginning she was toying with him just like every other guy before him, her stories were all lies her word and poems the same as those sent to the men before him, she was playing with him as a fool. But one day she realizes that he is real and she falls in love with him, but not after she still goes out and sees her ex's and even talks to other men on the internet. now she feels sorry and really loves him. but she is afraid of him finding out the truth so she sugar codes and lies about things so they seem better.
However he is too smart, he begins to see her lies and she even lies right to his face over and over again and each time he find the proof to the truth, and finally after over 2 months of lies (which he has stuck by her the entire time) she finally gives the real terrible truth about her past, with terrible acts and all of which cant even be mentioned here. NOW she loves him, NOW she wants to be true.
The man loves her with all his heart but his patience has run thin, does he deserve this? he doesnt want to leave her and hurt her, but he doesnt want to stay and continue to be hurt, he also does not wanna be left all alone in the end, what did he do to deserve this, what should a real man do? why do women (including her) complain that there are no real men, yet they are shocked to find one and they treat them like this? why do nice guys finish last?
Patience
Just Tell me why, what did I do to deserve this
Why do I give my all, and try so hard
Only to receive silence as my reward?
What does it take, where must I go?
Why must I pay for all their past mistakes?
Why did they get to enjoy you, when they did you wrong?
Why do I get a cold shoulder, when I radiate warmth?
Am I a fool? Why do I continue to deal with what I don’t deserve?
Every man has his breaking point, yet I've ignored mines
Why give someone a heart so big?
Is it so it can take more punishment?
But yet it feels so deeply and true?
It just waits to be unleashed, yet it gets caged?
But like Maya says the caged bird still sings
And I will still wait patiently.
This goes out to all those who go through it still looking for that special someone
Why do I give my all, and try so hard
Only to receive silence as my reward?
What does it take, where must I go?
Why must I pay for all their past mistakes?
Why did they get to enjoy you, when they did you wrong?
Why do I get a cold shoulder, when I radiate warmth?
Am I a fool? Why do I continue to deal with what I don’t deserve?
Every man has his breaking point, yet I've ignored mines
Why give someone a heart so big?
Is it so it can take more punishment?
But yet it feels so deeply and true?
It just waits to be unleashed, yet it gets caged?
But like Maya says the caged bird still sings
And I will still wait patiently.
This goes out to all those who go through it still looking for that special someone
The Physical Definition of Love
My passion burns deep; it ignites in the furnace of my heart,
It pumps out through every vein, vessel, and artery.
It radiates from my skin, concentrated at the lips and fingertips.
I know I’m in love because I want more than just sex,
I want to fulfill your every desire, tend to your every need.
I want to physically define passion, intimacy and love.
You can feel it in my touch as your skin tingles with desire,
I caress you softly, kiss you gently, and show you my love and care.
Your body begins to tremble softly as I taste your inner pleasure,
I can feel your body’s response, it yearns for mines,
I slide into your temple and praise its beauty of design,
I fill every seat and please every bit of its needs.
I embrace you tightly as we write the physical definition of love.
Our furnaces explode as passion bursts from our touch,
Your body is weak, for its every need has been fulfilled.
I hold you close and lay your head on my chest,
As we continue to define the physical definition of love.
This one is dedicated to the passion of love
It pumps out through every vein, vessel, and artery.
It radiates from my skin, concentrated at the lips and fingertips.
I know I’m in love because I want more than just sex,
I want to fulfill your every desire, tend to your every need.
I want to physically define passion, intimacy and love.
You can feel it in my touch as your skin tingles with desire,
I caress you softly, kiss you gently, and show you my love and care.
Your body begins to tremble softly as I taste your inner pleasure,
I can feel your body’s response, it yearns for mines,
I slide into your temple and praise its beauty of design,
I fill every seat and please every bit of its needs.
I embrace you tightly as we write the physical definition of love.
Our furnaces explode as passion bursts from our touch,
Your body is weak, for its every need has been fulfilled.
I hold you close and lay your head on my chest,
As we continue to define the physical definition of love.
This one is dedicated to the passion of love
Heaven In The Form Of A Girl
In the beginning god created man and realized he shouldn’t be alone,
With a piece of his side and great love and care shown,
The lord created Heaven in the form of a girl.
She was perfect in every way, a beauty of God’s creation,
She was man’s equal then, and forever with no imitation,
She was Heaven in the form of a girl.
Over time woman and man grew strife,
Ignorance prevailed and she was forced into a submissive life,
greater minds prevailed and the world saw the freedom of woman’s plight,
She was Heaven in the form of a girl.
As with all things, over time man and woman began to change,
Man mistreated his equal then the woman returned the favor,
Despite the cycle of betrayal, deception, and everything in that range,
She was still Heaven in the form of a girl.
Today most are misjudged and overlooked,
Not all men are dogs, not all women are scandalous,
Many complain but don’t take the time to look at what’s in front of their eyes,
One of those real men or good woman that they seek,
That piece of Heaven in the form of a girl.
Men can front, fake, and joke if they want to,
Woman is still the most beautiful, complex, and intriguing creation,
Her mind is right, heart is gold, body is tight, words are bold, actions are classy,
She is Heaven in the form of a girl.
It hits you suddenly when you say “I Do",
When you hear the words “It’s a girl" and she looks like you,
When you get past the nonsense and it’s finally true,
You realize Heaven in the form of a girl.
This is Dedicated to all those real women out there who deserve to have the world given to them.
With a piece of his side and great love and care shown,
The lord created Heaven in the form of a girl.
She was perfect in every way, a beauty of God’s creation,
She was man’s equal then, and forever with no imitation,
She was Heaven in the form of a girl.
Over time woman and man grew strife,
Ignorance prevailed and she was forced into a submissive life,
greater minds prevailed and the world saw the freedom of woman’s plight,
She was Heaven in the form of a girl.
As with all things, over time man and woman began to change,
Man mistreated his equal then the woman returned the favor,
Despite the cycle of betrayal, deception, and everything in that range,
She was still Heaven in the form of a girl.
Today most are misjudged and overlooked,
Not all men are dogs, not all women are scandalous,
Many complain but don’t take the time to look at what’s in front of their eyes,
One of those real men or good woman that they seek,
That piece of Heaven in the form of a girl.
Men can front, fake, and joke if they want to,
Woman is still the most beautiful, complex, and intriguing creation,
Her mind is right, heart is gold, body is tight, words are bold, actions are classy,
She is Heaven in the form of a girl.
It hits you suddenly when you say “I Do",
When you hear the words “It’s a girl" and she looks like you,
When you get past the nonsense and it’s finally true,
You realize Heaven in the form of a girl.
This is Dedicated to all those real women out there who deserve to have the world given to them.
How Gangsta Is Love?
A gangsta would never betray his boys, but he can betray his woman?
A gangsta just doesn’t give a f**k, but he can front when his boys are around?
A gangsta hangs around his boys, but its wrong to spend time with their girl?
A gangsta fights when his boys need him, but its ok to roll when she needs him?
A true gangsta never disrespects a woman, and doesn’t need to lie
A true gangsta doesn’t give a f**k what people think about his feelings for his girl
A true gangsta can spend time with his baby, and tell his boys he’ll catch them l8tr
A true gangsta rides and doesn’t run when his girl is the one who needs him
Many confuse “going hard? and being “gangsta? with being a man
A true gangsta is one who handles business no matter what it is
The original gangsta’s handled things with honor and respect
The original gangsta’s don’t exist anymore
I don’t call myself a gangsta but I know I get it done
I know how to handle mines and won’t fake for nobody
I can be whatever way I want to be, because I need not change for anyone
I’ma be “gangsta" with mines and not change a thing, cause that’s what’s up
A gangsta just doesn’t give a f**k, but he can front when his boys are around?
A gangsta hangs around his boys, but its wrong to spend time with their girl?
A gangsta fights when his boys need him, but its ok to roll when she needs him?
A true gangsta never disrespects a woman, and doesn’t need to lie
A true gangsta doesn’t give a f**k what people think about his feelings for his girl
A true gangsta can spend time with his baby, and tell his boys he’ll catch them l8tr
A true gangsta rides and doesn’t run when his girl is the one who needs him
Many confuse “going hard? and being “gangsta? with being a man
A true gangsta is one who handles business no matter what it is
The original gangsta’s handled things with honor and respect
The original gangsta’s don’t exist anymore
I don’t call myself a gangsta but I know I get it done
I know how to handle mines and won’t fake for nobody
I can be whatever way I want to be, because I need not change for anyone
I’ma be “gangsta" with mines and not change a thing, cause that’s what’s up
One Man's Struggle
All I wanted was to give her my all
I told them I would never lie
I told them I would hold them close
I told them I would care for them
I told them I would pamper them in every way I know how
I wrote about them
I sent them things just let them know I was thinking about them
All I wanted was to make her happy
I did everything I could….
I remained true and genuine
I thought it was what they all they said wanted
It wasn’t good enough, or maybe it was me
Cause I still stand alone
Y do I bother
Niggas say bitches ain’t shit
Bitches say Niggas ain’t shit
In a way they are both true, and both false
No wonder some males act the way they do
No wonder some females act the way they do
At the end of the day I’m still alone
At the end of the day I’m still looking
At the end of the day it’s still just me
This is dedicated to all those good brothers out there who are going through it trying to find a good women.
I told them I would never lie
I told them I would hold them close
I told them I would care for them
I told them I would pamper them in every way I know how
I wrote about them
I sent them things just let them know I was thinking about them
All I wanted was to make her happy
I did everything I could….
I remained true and genuine
I thought it was what they all they said wanted
It wasn’t good enough, or maybe it was me
Cause I still stand alone
Y do I bother
Niggas say bitches ain’t shit
Bitches say Niggas ain’t shit
In a way they are both true, and both false
No wonder some males act the way they do
No wonder some females act the way they do
At the end of the day I’m still alone
At the end of the day I’m still looking
At the end of the day it’s still just me
This is dedicated to all those good brothers out there who are going through it trying to find a good women.
All 4 You
The day I met you, never really happened, yet we have come so far,
I always knew there was someone out there for me, just for me
I was made the way I am just for you, to be your knight, your king, your man
I will take away your pain, your past; I will wash it all away with my love
I will pour my heart into you, on to you, and let my care and affection cover you
Never again will I allow you to feel that pain , if I have anything to say about it
I wonder if you are truly the one I was destined for, only time will tell
And if time flies then we are bound to soar amongst the stars
Under the lords watchful and ever caring eye, we will pray for his anointment
I promise to never lie to you, and to belong only to you
I promise to never hurt you they way others have
I promise to make every attempt to make you feel the way you deserve
I promise that these word will not turn out to be empty
You are a queen, never let anyone tell you different, always know the truth
I will pamper you with my love and care, sit you in my lap and hold you
I will show you to the world as my queen, and treat you like so
I will be yours and you will be mines, all you have to do is accept
I can’t wait for the day we meet for real as "me"+"you"="us" and get it started
I can't wait, Until then I will be patient
This piece is dedicated to keeping hope alive in the pursuit of finding that right one.
I always knew there was someone out there for me, just for me
I was made the way I am just for you, to be your knight, your king, your man
I will take away your pain, your past; I will wash it all away with my love
I will pour my heart into you, on to you, and let my care and affection cover you
Never again will I allow you to feel that pain , if I have anything to say about it
I wonder if you are truly the one I was destined for, only time will tell
And if time flies then we are bound to soar amongst the stars
Under the lords watchful and ever caring eye, we will pray for his anointment
I promise to never lie to you, and to belong only to you
I promise to never hurt you they way others have
I promise to make every attempt to make you feel the way you deserve
I promise that these word will not turn out to be empty
You are a queen, never let anyone tell you different, always know the truth
I will pamper you with my love and care, sit you in my lap and hold you
I will show you to the world as my queen, and treat you like so
I will be yours and you will be mines, all you have to do is accept
I can’t wait for the day we meet for real as "me"+"you"="us" and get it started
I can't wait, Until then I will be patient
This piece is dedicated to keeping hope alive in the pursuit of finding that right one.
The Cycle
In life we encounter bad relationships and experiences that can have a lasting impact on our lives. Bad experiences are a part of life that have to be taken in stride and used for our own good. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason whether we know it or understand it at the time. Often times the bad experiences of life teach us things about ourselves and others that we need to know to be successful. In this particular situation I am going to cover how bad relationships have a exponentially negative effect tat we must be aware of.
There is a cycle of good people being “corrupted” by the bad. I know many guys (myself included) and girls who have been flat out ripped in a relationship while trying to do the right thing. When you face any negative thing in life you can respond either positively or negatively. Many people often respond negatively by allowing the event to change who they are for the worse by losing faith in certain aspects of life such as relationships. Therefore they act out and carry themselves like players, or become promiscuous, or even decide to change sexual orientation.
One cannot allow the negativity to drastically alter their lives, of course there will be something learned, and a period of recovery afterwards, however we must bounce back. If you are a nice person, and you have face a ton of meanness and negativity out here in the world, and you will realize the fact that it is a tough world out there. That does not mean you should stop being the nice person you are, but you will learn the toughness it takes to exist and not be walked on, and find out with who and where your kindness is effective for others and still defensive of yourself. Unfortunately sometimes people feel like its no use being kind and become the same type of person that got them to this point. If you allow people or experiences to alter you like that, you give them power over you!
On the opposite end of this are those who go through something and don’t learn from it. There is nothing worse than making a mistake, and not learning from it so you end up doing it again. No matter where and if you fall in any of these categories know that the bad things in life are there to teach us something. It’s ok to be upset, and even a bit down about something, but after a while you have to stand up and be the person you would be no matter what, by learning from mistakes, and not becoming the same thing that hurt you.
There is a cycle of good people being “corrupted” by the bad. I know many guys (myself included) and girls who have been flat out ripped in a relationship while trying to do the right thing. When you face any negative thing in life you can respond either positively or negatively. Many people often respond negatively by allowing the event to change who they are for the worse by losing faith in certain aspects of life such as relationships. Therefore they act out and carry themselves like players, or become promiscuous, or even decide to change sexual orientation.
One cannot allow the negativity to drastically alter their lives, of course there will be something learned, and a period of recovery afterwards, however we must bounce back. If you are a nice person, and you have face a ton of meanness and negativity out here in the world, and you will realize the fact that it is a tough world out there. That does not mean you should stop being the nice person you are, but you will learn the toughness it takes to exist and not be walked on, and find out with who and where your kindness is effective for others and still defensive of yourself. Unfortunately sometimes people feel like its no use being kind and become the same type of person that got them to this point. If you allow people or experiences to alter you like that, you give them power over you!
On the opposite end of this are those who go through something and don’t learn from it. There is nothing worse than making a mistake, and not learning from it so you end up doing it again. No matter where and if you fall in any of these categories know that the bad things in life are there to teach us something. It’s ok to be upset, and even a bit down about something, but after a while you have to stand up and be the person you would be no matter what, by learning from mistakes, and not becoming the same thing that hurt you.
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