100% Relationship

A Romantic relationship involves two people who stake an interest with each other to be together for an extended period of time (with the eventual goal of the rest of their lives, though this isn’t always the case). They are partners in life during that relationship and in order for a relationship to work each person must bring their half, their full 50% in order to get a complete 100%. The problem with any struggling relationship or one that went bad can be identified when one or both didn’t give a satisfactory percentage to the other resulting in discrepancies (arguments, disagreements, and overall unhappiness).



Before I go any further lets take a quick run through at finding the right partner to even try a relationship. I hope everyone realizes that looks are not everything, and neither are the things that go with it. I know many people who only go after certain “type” or “look” and wonder why they don’t have much success. Also be sure that you are on the same page as far as goals and expectation page being on the wrong page leads to many relationship failures. And finally before we get into this a disclaimer, everyone must realize that in searching for their significant other you are at risk to run into the immature, trifling, damaged, or downright ignorant possibilities that exist for both males and females.



A big problem I find with many relationships is people who are not complete themselves trying to be in a relationship. No matter the reason, be it some form of mental, physical, or emotional abuse in their past, or a series of bad experiences with relationships, one cannot shortchange the possibility of future relationship success by carrying bad luggage. Even worse is hanging the mistakes and faults of past partners gone wrong over this person you are trying to be in a relationship with. You cannot make person C pay for the mistakes of the previous A and B. If you find yourself still struggling with issues from a previous relationship then take the time to avoid them (and subsequently dealing with anyone) until you take the time to heal properly. There is nothing worse than allowing your own emotional issues ruin another relationship (and possibly create bad experiences for someone else). Also one should ask themselves am I mature enough for a relationship or would I rather be “open” to running around and “experiencing” other people as I grow (make sure you figure this out and don’t hurt anyone while trying to find you own way).



The other issue is that people don’t know how to give their all properly. They either give too much (trying to cover for the other’s deficiencies) or they give too little (creating said deficiency). Nobody can give more than 100% despite what many motivating clichés may say. Trying to go beyond your own 100% for any reason, be it compensating for your partners lack of anything from esteem, respect, priority, or even love and care can cause damage to yourself and the overall relationship. Doing so puts a strain on yourself and does not help your partner grow or get better at what they are lacking. Instead make sure proper communication about your wants and needs (and your partners too) are communicated, and do your best to find out what you guys need to work on in order to meet them for one another.



Finally realize that all relationships either last till death, or unfortunately end badly (with the rarity of a “good” ending). Someone once asked me “what’s wrong with me? Why do my relationships keep coming to a heartbreaking end?” First one must realize that a relationship is an emotional and spiritual investment, so if it doesn’t work then there WILL be pain and questions left behind. Just because there is a failure doesn’t mean there is necessarily anything “wrong” with you. As with any situation one should always look realistically in the mirror to identify what they did wrong and could do better, and everything isn’t automatically the other persons fault. Sometimes two people who are nice and good just are not the right match for one another, also just because it didn’t work doesn’t mean there is no hope. Fearing failure is one of the worst attitudes you can have in life, and can prevent its full potential.



In the end communication can never be stressed enough when it comes to relationships, especially early on in them. By figuring out your goals and expectations you can avoid many headaches before they start to become painful. When early on don’t try to portray yourself as the “perfect” partner, being upfront here will make a better relationship and save you future troubles. After you guys are on the same page make sure each person is a complete individual, capable of being on their own, not needy of each other, but wanting. Finally cast aside all preconceptions, mistrusts and doubts and judge each person on their own character and what they display to you. Never forget your past lessons, but learn to properly apply them, so that you can find what you’re looking for. Remember to never give up hope, and never let a demon of the past capture your potential for future victory; by holding on to those bad experiences, you give the person responsible for them power over you. Let go, live, and learn.

Love, Faith & Patience

Anything can be overcome with Love, Faith, and Patience. All three go hand in hand and struggle without each other. At any point in your life if you wanted to make a change, if you wanted turn things around, or get things back on track then Love, Faith and Patience is what you need.

Love is the most powerful force on the planet. Love is a common attribute that we can share with our creator. God’s love for us is so powerful that he sent his only son to die on the cross so that he may forgive us, sinners, people who are not worthy, people who are inherently wrong, people who are prone to make mistakes and transgress against him. God’s love is unmatched in that it is nearly infinite; he always makes a way, and never gives up on us, even when we sometimes give up on him. That being said it is the love that drives us and our lives, our love for our families, our love of God that makes us do the right thing, even our love of ourselves, our morals, who we are and want to be that makes us strive in the right direction. When love is focused it can have great results, it can make you the best at anything from music, to sports, or it can make you the best person in the world to someone. Focus your love, your passion, your drive, and you can achieve many things however, love needs its partners.

Faith is equally important with love; I believe God has faith in every person, no matter how far they have erred to make their way back onto the righteous path. Without faith many things are not worth your efforts. How can one achieve anything, or succeed if they do not believe it is possible? How many games will a team win if nobody on it thinks winning is possible? How far can one go if they don’t believe there is a glimmer of hope? Your attitude is so important in so many ways that simply believing in yourself can make all the difference. If you believe or have faith that you can accomplish something, then you are on the right track so long as you have the love and their binding factor, patience.
Patience is rooted in love and faith, if your love a child or a person you will have patience for them, also if you have faith that they will get it together or get it right then your patience will grow. God’s patience is incredible because for every person on this planet he will wait up to their entire lifetime so that they may find him. As with God or anything else in life, things may not come when you want them to. You must be able to endure the hardships, endure the fact that things will get better before they get worse, and have the patience to withstand it all without losing love, or faith, because without them you will lose your patience.

If one can focus their love, stand on their faith and use both to strengthen their patience, then they are truly limitless in what they accomplish. Whether you are Michael Jordan or Jackson, Martin Luther King Jr., Albert Einstein or even Barack Obama, the only way they could be who they are, as good as they are, and accomplish what they did is by using these three powers. By having Love for what they did and their purpose, by having faith that they could achieve what they wanted, and having the patience to endure until they were there, they like many others accomplished great things. So if you have a goal, or know that you can do better or need to make a change, then find your love, faith and patience and give them your all.

The Chance

Oh so close, yet no cigar
So out of reach yet not so far
The closer I get, the further you are
There’s the reason for my hearts biggest scar

Anything could happen if we gave it a chance
Together each other’s lives we would enhance
The ability to send you a chill with just a glance
A life time of love and romance

If I said how I feel where would it go?
Would it even matter if you decided to know?
Together one day, possibly we could grow?
Or would I end up with nothing to show?

If only I knew the answer first
The time and effort, would it be worth?
The slim chance of a beautiful birth
A masterpiece to exist on this earth

Life Is Short

Life is short, how many times we hear such a cliché, but what does it really mean to us? How often do we even think of it? Why does it take the most extreme of circumstances that we can come by in our lives before people wake up and realize that some things are more important than people’s petty differences? Far too often we don’t think about the bigger picture life has to hold when we deal in our relationships with friends and family, and even with significant others.

We are inclined to argue and “beef” with other people for the simplest of reasons. How many times do we think twice when arguing bickering and rejecting opportunities to express how we feel? People have heard the idea that at any moment you say goodbye, walk away, or turn your back on someone it may be the last time you ever see them. Being as it may, based on the things I believe we have all witnessed, experienced, or said ourselves it is clear that people do not think about such a thing. Before you decide not to say how you really feel, tell the truth, be open and honest, or end things on a bad note, beware of that fact, and be more appreciative and respective of life.

The Power Of Words

Some people don’t truly realize the power that their words and actions can have on other people. For some words can cut deeper than any knife. When you are in an argument with someone, ESPECIALLY if it’s with someone you care about or someone who cares a lot about you. It is in times like this that we have to control the things we say, because it is in those times that you can say something you didn’t really mean out of anger. In those times the wrong comment can never be taken back.
When in a heated argument, especially when dealing with someone who may have wronged you, you must consider how they feel. Even when the other person is dead wrong and we are steaming mad, consider how sorry the other person is feeling inside. Often we are so mad that we say extremely hurtful things that may push a person to the brink. In this day and age you can never truly know what a person’s emotional mind state really is. It would be a terrible thing if the things you said out of anger made a person do something rash (and irreversible if you know what I mean…).
For those comments toward strangers consider this, you never know what is going on in someone else’s life. In a way you never know what can be going on behind the scenes in the lives of those close to you. It’s a shame when we are rude to one another without really thinking about it, half of us don’t mean it, it’s just how we have grown accustom. The simplest acts can turn someone else’s day around creating a chain reaction we can’t see. Sometimes, even in the midst of our own annoyances we can still take the time out to make a day.
Ultimately we must think both before we open our mouths and before we react. That is a lost art in today’s world. And sometimes even when we are totally uninvolved we can make a world of a difference. I have done it before in too many different accounts to name, but even I have missed opportunities. We never know how deep our actions can be. I have made some decisions to act when I saw others in distress that later on they told me may have saved their life because of how low they were feeling. We cannot always see the consequence of our actions, but we can always think before we make them.

Take Your Time

Far too often the young ladies of the world out there do foolish things all in pursuit of finding the right one. Guys do this as well, just because it is a great thing to be in a relationship, we cannot rush to find such a thing. Anything good in life, be it wine or cheese, or what ever floats your boat, they all take TIME. It is not advisable to go running around with your heart on your sleeve, that like playing the lotto with your rent money, the reward can be great, but it is a almost certainty of being homeless.

For all those guys and girls out there, here is something to think about. If you get in a serious relationship, make sure it is someone who you could see yourself married to. Why get serious especially in or after college with someone who you say to yourself you couldn’t marry? I have seen people do this and wonder why things go bad. Why set yourselves up for failure? If you meet a person that is cussin, fussin, partying, drinking, smoking, getting totally wasted, then be prepared for that. And be prepared for all the problems that will come out of it like getting drunk and doing stupid stuff, being around the wrong people, etc. I honestly think some people just don’t pay attention to what they are looking at or getting into, TAKE YOUR TIME, and really find out what people are about.

TAKE YOUR TIME (men and women alike), learn the background of the people you deal with before you get serious. I have said it before if someone is good and genuine it will reign true in all aspects of their life. If a person is good to you and bad by everyone else and through reputation that that means one of two things; On one hand they could be putting up a front and running game on you, or two they are good inside but are 50/50 cause their bad everywhere else. Some people are not looking for anything serious and therefore don’t care, but for those who are think about these things. If you go with the 50/50 or even the game runner be prepared for the results, and when the crap hits the fan don’t be one of the “men aint nothing” group. If you are willing to play with those odds, be prepared to lose…