100% Relationship

A Romantic relationship involves two people who stake an interest with each other to be together for an extended period of time (with the eventual goal of the rest of their lives, though this isn’t always the case). They are partners in life during that relationship and in order for a relationship to work each person must bring their half, their full 50% in order to get a complete 100%. The problem with any struggling relationship or one that went bad can be identified when one or both didn’t give a satisfactory percentage to the other resulting in discrepancies (arguments, disagreements, and overall unhappiness).



Before I go any further lets take a quick run through at finding the right partner to even try a relationship. I hope everyone realizes that looks are not everything, and neither are the things that go with it. I know many people who only go after certain “type” or “look” and wonder why they don’t have much success. Also be sure that you are on the same page as far as goals and expectation page being on the wrong page leads to many relationship failures. And finally before we get into this a disclaimer, everyone must realize that in searching for their significant other you are at risk to run into the immature, trifling, damaged, or downright ignorant possibilities that exist for both males and females.



A big problem I find with many relationships is people who are not complete themselves trying to be in a relationship. No matter the reason, be it some form of mental, physical, or emotional abuse in their past, or a series of bad experiences with relationships, one cannot shortchange the possibility of future relationship success by carrying bad luggage. Even worse is hanging the mistakes and faults of past partners gone wrong over this person you are trying to be in a relationship with. You cannot make person C pay for the mistakes of the previous A and B. If you find yourself still struggling with issues from a previous relationship then take the time to avoid them (and subsequently dealing with anyone) until you take the time to heal properly. There is nothing worse than allowing your own emotional issues ruin another relationship (and possibly create bad experiences for someone else). Also one should ask themselves am I mature enough for a relationship or would I rather be “open” to running around and “experiencing” other people as I grow (make sure you figure this out and don’t hurt anyone while trying to find you own way).



The other issue is that people don’t know how to give their all properly. They either give too much (trying to cover for the other’s deficiencies) or they give too little (creating said deficiency). Nobody can give more than 100% despite what many motivating clichés may say. Trying to go beyond your own 100% for any reason, be it compensating for your partners lack of anything from esteem, respect, priority, or even love and care can cause damage to yourself and the overall relationship. Doing so puts a strain on yourself and does not help your partner grow or get better at what they are lacking. Instead make sure proper communication about your wants and needs (and your partners too) are communicated, and do your best to find out what you guys need to work on in order to meet them for one another.



Finally realize that all relationships either last till death, or unfortunately end badly (with the rarity of a “good” ending). Someone once asked me “what’s wrong with me? Why do my relationships keep coming to a heartbreaking end?” First one must realize that a relationship is an emotional and spiritual investment, so if it doesn’t work then there WILL be pain and questions left behind. Just because there is a failure doesn’t mean there is necessarily anything “wrong” with you. As with any situation one should always look realistically in the mirror to identify what they did wrong and could do better, and everything isn’t automatically the other persons fault. Sometimes two people who are nice and good just are not the right match for one another, also just because it didn’t work doesn’t mean there is no hope. Fearing failure is one of the worst attitudes you can have in life, and can prevent its full potential.



In the end communication can never be stressed enough when it comes to relationships, especially early on in them. By figuring out your goals and expectations you can avoid many headaches before they start to become painful. When early on don’t try to portray yourself as the “perfect” partner, being upfront here will make a better relationship and save you future troubles. After you guys are on the same page make sure each person is a complete individual, capable of being on their own, not needy of each other, but wanting. Finally cast aside all preconceptions, mistrusts and doubts and judge each person on their own character and what they display to you. Never forget your past lessons, but learn to properly apply them, so that you can find what you’re looking for. Remember to never give up hope, and never let a demon of the past capture your potential for future victory; by holding on to those bad experiences, you give the person responsible for them power over you. Let go, live, and learn.

Women Are Queens?

First of all, I believe all women are queens at heart. They are beautiful in every way that makes them unique, they were designed by God personally out of a piece of our side to be our companion, equal, and partner. Inside every woman is what it takes to be a true queen, however it is each women’s throne to take or abdicate.

Every woman makes choices that will push them toward their throne to become a true queen, or drive them away as they make themselves unworthy. Women, you control so much more than many give themselves credit for. You control the people you deal with, associate with and talk to in every way. Far too often I see women drag themselves down by the friends they keep (both male and female), the guys they talk to and deal with. No offense to anyone out there (we all encounter people who we should of never met) but it is hard to be a queen when you deal with scum. This problem gets compounded when the list of people you have dealt with grows at an alarming rate (if you know what I mean). I may be beating a dead horse but if you wish to be a queen choose those who you feel are real kings in all facets of their lives.

Lastly aside from the people you deal with, the most important factor is in how you carry yourselves. One cannot become the queen they are meant to be if you don’t act like it and believe in it yourself. No matter what you have been through, think you look like (I know far too many beautiful women who have issues with their bodies), or have done (everyone makes mistakes), it is never too late to wake up and realize that you are a queen. You cannot do or accomplish anything unless you believe in it and work towards it. Realize how precious your mind, body and spirits are. Stop allowing any of those three to be compromised by anyone or anything not worthy of your royal selves. If you allow it then it is what you are, half of the problem with women realizing their crowns is the lack of true kings out there. However part of that flaw is due to the lowered standards given up by women. All women are beautiful queens, gifts from god, but sadly far too many abdicate their thrones.

Heaven In The Form Of A Girl

In the beginning god created man and realized he shouldn’t be alone,
With a piece of his side and great love and care shown,
The lord created Heaven in the form of a girl.

She was perfect in every way, a beauty of God’s creation,
She was man’s equal then, and forever with no imitation,
She was Heaven in the form of a girl.

Over time woman and man grew strife,
Ignorance prevailed and she was forced into a submissive life,
greater minds prevailed and the world saw the freedom of woman’s plight,
She was Heaven in the form of a girl.

As with all things, over time man and woman began to change,
Man mistreated his equal then the woman returned the favor,
Despite the cycle of betrayal, deception, and everything in that range,
She was still Heaven in the form of a girl.

Today most are misjudged and overlooked,
Not all men are dogs, not all women are scandalous,
Many complain but don’t take the time to look at what’s in front of their eyes,
One of those real men or good woman that they seek,
That piece of Heaven in the form of a girl.

Men can front, fake, and joke if they want to,
Woman is still the most beautiful, complex, and intriguing creation,
Her mind is right, heart is gold, body is tight, words are bold, actions are classy,
She is Heaven in the form of a girl.

It hits you suddenly when you say “I Do",
When you hear the words “It’s a girl" and she looks like you,
When you get past the nonsense and it’s finally true,
You realize Heaven in the form of a girl.


This is Dedicated to all those real women out there who deserve to have the world given to them.