The Overlooked

Over and over again I hear how men aren’t any good and how all men are dogs, or that there aren’t any good men left. I beg to differ, and here is why: most good dudes are often overlooked and unappreciated if anything. Also most so called women out there are worse than the dudes they talk about. There are plenty miserable excuses of so called “men” out there who thinks it’s cool to live up to the image of the “player” with a total disregard to the impact their actions can have. On the other hand there are just as many shady females, who carry and act out as miserable excuses of women. The sad part is after a while so many become so used to "the average guy or girl", that once a person finds a good partner they don’t even know what to do with them.

There are many bad apples out there on both sides, but this is exacerbated by the things that collective we do, for example:

A lot of women and men are attracted after the wrong type of partner, for a guy to go looking for the girl with all the skin showing (showing skin can be done In a classy way, but it usually isn’t) and that clearly exhibits all the signs and symptoms of being easy, money hungry, or etc, don’t be shocked or disappointed if she is!

Same goes for women, if you go looking for the so called gangster thug type, or pretty girl ladies man type, don’t be shocked if that ladies man is in fact that, a man with a ton of other women on the side, or if your gangster is a flat out jerk to you.

Often times there are signs that can be seen if we pay attention to, now of course they aren’t always seen, and people do lie and put up facades. If you take the time to get to really know a person, they should be the same person through and through. I see far too often girls say stuff like “yeah he has a funny reputation or can appears or seems to be wild and crazy, but when he is with me he is different” OF COURSE HE IS, because he has a agenda. Now everyone does things outside their standard character every now and then, but if you see consistency in how they act everywhere but with you, then know something is wrong. This goes for guys and dealing with women as well.

In the end the old cliché far too often rings true, “Nice guys (and girls) finish last”. If we stop overlooking that sweet guy or girl we know in our lives for the jerks that stand out and have to call attention to themselves. Take a good look at what the people you are trying to deal with are about and how they act in life that will give you the best indicator of who they are. And hopefully these good men and women who are out there can start finding each other.